Self-Awareness Episodes

When someone disappears right as things start to feel real, it can feel like rejection out of nowhere. In this episode of The Spirit of Dating, George tells the story of a woman who reconnects with “the one that got away” ten years later, only to watch him vanish again as soon as she mentions Valentine’s Day. ​ Using this story, he unpacks the psychology of ghosting and breadcrumbing in modern dating—how intermittent reinforcement creates slot‑machine relationships, why someone’s silence can sometimes be a boundary rather than cruelty, and how past behaviour shapes the trust people have in you now. ​ You’ll hear about attachment, emotional availability, masculine psychology, and the mirrors that show up when we receive the same patterns we’ve given out. George closes with practical questions to help you notice when you’re keeping someone emotionally invested while you’re not really available, and how to name the past if you want a cleaner second chance.

Do you mistake chaos for chemistry? George unpacks limerence, the all-consuming fantasy that gets mistaken for love. Through the story of Olivia and Ethan, he shows how deep text-based intimacy builds a version of someone that does not survive meeting them, and why calm feels boring when you are used to drama.

Real love does not make you nervous, it makes you calm. George Dus explores the science and spirit of emotional safety, how the body senses trust, and how to build relationships where your nervous system can finally rest. This is a re-release of Episode 3 with replaced background music.

Real love doesn’t make you nervous — it makes you calm. George Dus explores the science and spirit of emotional safety, how our bodies sense trust, and how to create relationships where your nervous system can finally rest.